The term Stay In Your Lane may be somewhat new but the idea is not. People have told us to live by a set of rules for ages. As children, when coloring we were told to stay in the lines. To me, these things are just another form of segregation. When someone tells me to Stay In Your Lane, I cringe. I instantly become offended. Then I draw back and feel sorry for the person who told me to do that. Clearly, they have been limited in their own lives. These people are just passing down the torch of narrowmindedness.
Even in the blogging world, we are told to pick a small handful of topics to write about. From the marketing aspect, this is a good point. We want to draw a readership. The best way to do this is by having a niche we specialize in. On the other hand, one reason I became a writer, to begin with, was to share everything going on in my mind. Sorry but I am by no means capable of juggling a different blog for each topic of interest to me.
Sometimes the term “Stay In Your Lane” is used when someone speaks out on a topic they have limited knowledge about. I get it, sometimes we do need to defer to someone with more expertise on a subject matter. A wise person knows when to back down and let those in the know speak. When it comes to opinion, however, we are all equally entitled.
Stay In Your Lane can also be tossed out when infringing upon another person’s limelight.
However the phrase is used, whenever it is used, more often than not I refuse to agree with it.
As a child, I was all over the place. Even into my teens and early 20’s I had to experience everything I could. Perhaps I had ADD, back then we had little knowledge of such things. What I do know is that I had no concept of what a lane was, let alone an ability to stay in one.
I have had my share of career success, depending on what defines success. Am I wealthy? No far from it. Could I have been under different life circumstances? Probably so. As someone who was a pioneer in their profession, before I took a soft retirement from it, I paved the road for others.
I think in many aspects of my life I opened doors for others to follow through and succeed. For that, I do consider myself successful. I have always been involved in service work in one fashion or another.
Where is this article going? What is my point? My point is you can swerve, dodge, and turn any direction you want to in life. Changing lanes as many times as it may take to find yourself, to define yourself.
If you were born destined for a specific purpose, more power to you. Most of us are not so blessed. So many people today are still looking for their “passion” in life. They feel less than for not knowing what it is.
I do not want anyone to feel less than for taking time to explore their interests. Never allow anyone to tell you that you can’t color outside of the lines. If you look through history, it was those who challenged rules that opened up possibilities for the rest of the world.
One thing you will find here on Fashion Beyond Forty is diversity. I write what I feel passionate about and that can change from day to day.
So there is a saying that goes: Stay In Your Lane, and another saying that implies we can not understand another person until we walk in their shoes. I prefer the second saying. Trying as many things as I can in life. I want to know what it is like to walk in someone else’s shoes. While I am comfortable in my lane, since I paved it myself, I do not want to stay in my lane only.