This post is for all women.
It may be more helpful to the younger generations.
Most midlife women know this by now through life experience.
Whoever it may help. I am happy for it.
Just know, it will always be something.
Whatever self-image issue you are facing.
Whether you do not like your freckles, your curly hair, or your ample behind, someone appreciates it and wants it!
When I was young I had what is now known today as a shelf butt. It really was not that large but the way it was shaped was unique.
I remember as early as grade school a classmate saying that if it rained they could all stand under it to keep dry.
Those words hurt at the time.
Now that my butt has lost its perkiness, I wish I had it back!
I remember my mother spending an hour or more each day when I was a child using an iron to straighten her hair. No not a flat iron, but the kind you iron clothing with! This was long before flat irons of today. I longed to have her curly hair!
When I was a kid women tried riding their face of freckles with lemon juice. These days, young ladies are putting freckles on their faces with makeup!
I recall one time many years ago (decades) I was walking into a night club to meet friends. A man and his friends were walking behind us. I hear this man call out “Girl …. your ass is FAT!”
I spun around and gave him a look that could kill and said: “WHAT did you just say to me!?”
He looked alarmed and innocently held up his hands and said: “No no that is a good thing! Fat means nice.”
I was confused and perplexed upon how Fat could be good but I went along with it.
Later in the club, my girlfriends explained the lingo to me.
I had no idea.
Nowadays women are having surgeries to make their butts larger.
The point is things are forever changing in our world. What is hot one day is not the next. What is not hot becomes the most desired thing.
Just be you and own what you got, or what you got not.
Be proud of your looks, your uniqueness, your differences from others.
Every single woman in this world has beauty both inside and out.
There are so many things that make us beautiful and let’s not forget some of the world’s top runway models have unique features that set them apart.
Yes, there are days I feel I look better than other days. Some days I look in the mirror and just can not see myself doing a photo shoot that day. Funny thing is, those are some of the days I do the best photo shoots of all!
There is nothing sexier than a confident woman.
My friend Pallas, may she rest in peace, was a very large lady. Yet she just glowed with confidence and she was never lacking a date!
She dressed well, always had a smile on her face, and was warm-hearted.
She reached out to people, talked to anyone, and was always willing to lend a hand.
It was not just her personality however that got attention, men loved her curves!
Sure some men thought she was too heavy, but there were very handsome men who preferred extra meat on a woman’s body.
Dressing like you believe in yourself is key. I am not just saying that because I love fashion.
I say it because I see far too many women lacking in self-confidence wearing baggy clothing trying to blend in or hide from the world.
Too many women who do not believe in themselves are holding their heads down so they do not have to make eye-contact or to avoid conversation.
If this is you, look up!
You are marvelous, you are beautiful, and the sooner you believe it the sooner others will see it too.
A two-step exercise to increase your confidence:
- Whatever your main issue is, focus on it, look for the pros then write down 5 reasons why that one odd feature is awesome!
Trust me if you try you will come up with 5 reasons. Those reasons can be based on practicality, your mate’s preferences, compliments you have received about your features that perhaps you did not embrace.
That happens often in reality. We receive compliments on the very thing we despise about ourselves and brush the compliment off because of our own insecurity.
2. Do a Google search of your issue to increase confidence such as “hot celebs with small breasts” or “Top 10 most beautiful women with freckles”.
Trust me plenty will come up in your search!
Seeing that there are so many people out there in the world who have the same physical traits as you and are considered beautiful will help build your own confidence.
Yes, it is true you can also find things on the web saying your physical features are not hot.
That’s the point though, why self-disparage when just as many will find you absolutely stunning as would find your features odd or unattractive.
We need to focus on the good about ourselves and be our own champions.
Just remember ladies, you are unique and beautiful.
I would love to hear your stories in the comments. What is something you feel proud of when it comes to your looks or features? Or share something you struggle with.
Sharing with others is a wonderful way to shed those feelings of inadequacy. Most likely you will find we are alike and share similar feelings.